原理简述
Arrogance – an exaggerated sense of your own importance or belief you are better than others – is the enemy of humility. It is a highly destructive trait for individuals and organizations. It blinds people to their limitations and biases them against the contributions of others. Lack of humility is so destructive that Pope Gregory listed pride as one of the Seven Deadly Sins more than 1400 years ago. Arrogance has led to the downfall of many once-successful societies, organizations and individuals.
Humility is the absence of arrogance, not the denial of strength or intelligence. To be humble is to understand and accept yourself as you really are and accept others as they really are. Having an accurate sense of self-worth begins by believing you have inherent value as a person – which has nothing to do with title, status or money – and then discovering your talents and developing them into valued skills. Admitting when you need help, can’t do something well or need to improve is liberating. It frees you to focus on how you can best contribute and allows others to do the same.
Intellectual honesty is closely related to humility. It is dedication to truth and constructively dealing with reality, even when it is painful. Instead of only looking for evidence to support our ideas and views, it is to sincerely seek constructive feedback and strive to see things as they really are, rather than how we wish them to be. This is difficult because even when we ask for criticism, we often want praise. We constructively deal with reality by stopping unprofitable endeavors, being realistic about threats that could harm our business and experimenting to create better results. People who are intellectually honest change their paradigms when those paradigms are holding them back.
Maintaining humility when you’ve been successful is especially challenging. The minute we believe our success is inevitable or feel we are entitled to our success, we’re in serious trouble. True humility is reflected in our willingness to hold ourselves and others accountable for results and behavior consistent with Our Values. We should have high expectations of ourselves and others, willingly admit our mistakes, make corrections when we fall short of these standards and give credit where credit is due.
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例子
始终如一地保持谦逊很重要,但也具有挑战性,因为我们都有自我。下面的例子说明了 表现出谦卑和缺乏谦卑的样子。
- 接收建设性的反馈
- 收到积极的反馈
- 努力完成工作
表现出谦卑
Gia 得到的反馈是,她似乎没有试图了解客户的期望和部门的流程。相反,她正在重新创建她以前公司的流程。Gia 对反馈感到震惊,但经过思考后,她安排了与主管的时间,并说:“我想更多地了解您的反馈。我只是想在这份新工作中有一个良好的开端,但很明显我需要做一些不同的事情。
缺乏谦卑(防御性)
Gia 得到的反馈是,她似乎没有试图了解客户的期望和部门的流程。相反,她正在重新创建她以前公司的流程。Gia 对反馈感到震惊,并立即回应说:“我想你不明白,在我以前的公司,我们拥有世界一流的流程,而这正是这个团队所需要的!我相信这就是我被录用的原因。
表现出谦卑
埃里克的主管邀请他加入安全委员会,因为他在轮班会议上提供了宝贵的意见。埃里克回答说:“你能帮我了解我的哪些评论最有帮助吗,为什么?这样我就可以尽可能地为安全委员会提供帮助。
缺乏谦卑(虚假谦虚)
埃里克的主管邀请他加入安全委员会,因为他在轮班会议上提供了宝贵的意见。埃里克回答说:“谢谢,但我没有比团队中的其他人更好的东西了。
表现出谦卑
克莱尔刚刚开始负责协调一个大型招聘活动。有许多不同的任务要完成,有些是她擅长的,有些是她不擅长的。对细节的关注不是 Claire 的强项,因此她与她的主管讨论将注册跟踪委托给 Ryka。
缺乏谦卑(愚蠢的骄傲)
克莱尔刚刚开始负责协调一个大型招聘活动。有许多不同的任务要完成,有些是她擅长的,有些是她不擅长的。她不想承认自己不知所措,所以这个月她每天晚上都工作到很晚,自己把所有事情都做好。
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这些原则的力量是通过应用来实现的。申请时学习是无可替代的。
看看 动机和行为的“贡献动机”的一面。实践谦卑与贡献动机有什么关系?
想想你生活中的经历,有人缺乏谦卑,这破坏了价值或导致错失了机会。你可以从这些情况中吸取哪些教训,并将其应用到你的工作中?
- 找出难以承认自己缺点的情况。当你将来面对这些情况时,你如何表现出谦卑?
想想你生活中谦虚的人。他们表现出什么行为?
一个缺乏谦逊的人将如何努力应用基于原则的管理的其他方面?
练习谦卑与温顺或软弱有什么不同?
谦卑帮助我们理解和面对现实。这与追究自己和他人的责任有什么关系?
我们可以通过哪些方式让彼此对符合我们价值观的结果和行为负责?