原理简述
Arrogance – an exaggerated sense of your own importance or belief you are better than others – is the enemy of humility. It is a highly destructive trait for individuals and organizations. It blinds people to their limitations and biases them against the contributions of others. Lack of humility is so destructive that Pope Gregory listed pride as one of the Seven Deadly Sins more than 1400 years ago. Arrogance has led to the downfall of many once-successful societies, organizations and individuals.
Humility is the absence of arrogance, not the denial of strength or intelligence. To be humble is to understand and accept yourself as you really are and accept others as they really are. Having an accurate sense of self-worth begins by believing you have inherent value as a person – which has nothing to do with title, status or money – and then discovering your talents and developing them into valued skills. Admitting when you need help, can’t do something well or need to improve is liberating. It frees you to focus on how you can best contribute and allows others to do the same.
Intellectual honesty is closely related to humility. It is dedication to truth and constructively dealing with reality, even when it is painful. Instead of only looking for evidence to support our ideas and views, it is to sincerely seek constructive feedback and strive to see things as they really are, rather than how we wish them to be. This is difficult because even when we ask for criticism, we often want praise. We constructively deal with reality by stopping unprofitable endeavors, being realistic about threats that could harm our business and experimenting to create better results. People who are intellectually honest change their paradigms when those paradigms are holding them back.
Maintaining humility when you’ve been successful is especially challenging. The minute we believe our success is inevitable or feel we are entitled to our success, we’re in serious trouble. True humility is reflected in our willingness to hold ourselves and others accountable for results and behavior consistent with Our Values. We should have high expectations of ourselves and others, willingly admit our mistakes, make corrections when we fall short of these standards and give credit where credit is due.
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例子
始终如一地保持谦逊很重要,但也具有挑战性,因为我们都有自我。下面的例子说明了 表现出谦卑和缺乏谦卑的样子。
- 接收建设性的反馈
- 收到积极的反馈
- 努力完成工作
试一试
这些原则的力量是通过应用来实现的。申请时学习是无可替代的。
看看 动机和行为的“贡献动机”的一面。实践谦卑与贡献动机有什么关系?
想想你生活中的经历,有人缺乏谦卑,这破坏了价值或导致错失了机会。你可以从这些情况中吸取哪些教训,并将其应用到你的工作中?
- 找出难以承认自己缺点的情况。当你将来面对这些情况时,你如何表现出谦卑?
想想你生活中谦虚的人。他们表现出什么行为?
一个缺乏谦逊的人将如何努力应用基于原则的管理的其他方面?
练习谦卑与温顺或软弱有什么不同?
谦卑帮助我们理解和面对现实。这与追究自己和他人的责任有什么关系?
我们可以通过哪些方式让彼此对符合我们价值观的结果和行为负责?